Yuvraj, who always answers "Yes, I know", "Yes, It's already done", "Yes, I've already tried this", "I just thought about it, you said it" etc. He always pretends that he knows the solution for all the problems. There were even times, where he answered "Yes, I know" to my question and went and googled for the answer later.
..and there was Zaheer, who always says "Yes, I agree" to whatever his boss or his favorite colleague says. The answer from him would be the quite opposite if the same point was mentioned by others. Zaheer also pretends that he is listening to others, but actually he will be in his own world. When he comes back asking for the same information, the team will be puzzled.
Then there was Nehra, who always toggles the window when people walk around his desk. He wastes most of the time in observing who is watching him or who is talking about him.
Do you know Dhoni, Yuvraj, Zaheer and Nehra? I can see you nodding. You're right, we can find them in us and around us very often. Deeply thinking about what is common between these behaviors, it is their motive, which pushes them to practice these habits, which makes them as slaves and diseased... at the end which spoils their career and themselves before they even realise. Yes, the motive of trying to do things to please someone or prove something to someone.
Many people believe that progressing in their career or life will happen by just pleasing someone or by always trying to prove something to someone, however by doing that they fail to realise the fact that,
they are only fulfilling others wish than their own;
they only spend time and get stressed in thinking about others than themselves;
they mostly do things only to dodge from others words or views;
they arrest the freedom, individuality and creativity;
they don't add value either to the organization nor to themselves;
they work for the boss, not for the organization;
Simply, they are slaves to the people who they are trying to please;
The above mentioned facts are not the qualities of the people who are on a mission to achieve their own vision. Visionarypeople need a clear head and cannot afford to waste even a minute in doing some unnecessary stuff, because just 24 hours a day is not enough for them. Actually, it is a lot of effort to do things to please someone, which will stress you out and blocks your progress in career and life.
While there are infinite things left to learn in this industry, one of the fact I came across is that the industry has played a considerable role in contributing to the people's attitude. One of the way the people have been brought up by the industry is by promoting the hierarchical culture which encourages the egoistic and self boasting attitude (few people are exception). Hence even the young professionals are cultivated with the same culture, which is a shame.
When you do the right thing, Your colleagues might rub their bad mouth on your back, your boss might watch you with his half visioned eye or even your friends might fire at you with a double barrel gun. All you have to do is...
Be honest and open, always stand up for the right thing;
Do not do things to please anyone or prove anything to anyone;
Be as you are, pour in your uniqueness in whatever you do;
Own the tasks as if it is yours, enjoy the ownership;
Treat everyone as the same in the team, including your boss;
Do the best you can to add value in whatever you do;
I won't say that nurturing this attitude and environment in the team helps you to achieve the following 100%, but at least to 70%...
More satisfied team members and an excellent work environment;
Improved product quality with suggestions and ideas;
Do the right thing and feel proud;
Focus only on the end-user, no one else;
Work with everyone, not for anyone;
Freedom, Individuality, Creativity promoted;
So guys, simply,
"Start the music, and get yourself moving, warm up and imagine you are hosting the party. Remember that you are not dancing to prove anything or please anyone, you are dancing because you feel so. It doesn't really matter if you are not a good dancer or if someone is watching you, all that matters is that you make an effort with the right attitude and have fun. On the dance floor, boss, sub-ordinate, peer, anyone and everyone is the same."
5 comments:
Hello Kari Sir,
I liked every thing that you have mentioned.The question that still exists is.
What to do, when you know that you are doing the right thing but in a wrong way and you don't have the say to do it in the right way?
cheers,
Amit
Yes. Transformation from layer system to flat system, as in your Success Factory, is taking place everywhere even in our organization (CPSU). Lot of people from next generation are coming in my company and they will fill the vacancies in next couple of years. I am going to feel the culture, what you have written, very soon. Let me get rid of hierarchical old guys (am 51) and have the pleasure of working with young guys atleast at the end of my career. Keep moving on sharing your ideas with us... Very good work...
Amit, doing the right thing in wrong way can only be corrected by the experience (either yours or from others). I always believe in, "Do not be afraid to make mistakes, but do not repeat it again, that is learning from the mistakes".
However, as mentioned in the post, does not matter whatever happens, you always have to stand for the right thing. Sometimes, standing up means, coming up with best practices, suggesting new ideas, contributing to your client's business, disagreeing or saying no to your boss if necessary, initiating the code cleanup without being asked for etc. As you know, not all of your ideas and efforts will be put into an action, you can still keep doing the things which you feel is right, not just because your boss likes it. Even the boss needs to give an explanation on why he wants things in that way, because he is one of the team member. If he fails to do so, he is not fit to be a leader.
You might not have a say now to change anything, but as you know it is just temporary, not going to stay for a long time.
We suggest too many good ideas to the clients, but sometimes they take it, many times they leave it. It is up to them really, but we have made them aware of the best possible ways, that is one way of adding value to the client and through that we add value to our organization and team.
Hope I have answered your question.
mama what you said is 100% correct. but do you think, if we show our uniqueness without considering others critiques and comments will we have a good reputation among our society??
i might be wrong with my post but am still confused with how to be like that might be am immature am confused.... and this issue is my main hindrance to be myself ...
Manoj, the fear of the society/boss is what is making us slaves, restricts ourselves from doing the right things, frightens us of pain... at the end we will end up doing things to please the society/boss not ourselves. If you have a proper vision, and if it is big enough to run towards, your views & priorities will be different.
Saying that, respecting others is more important. Critics and comments from others are the ones which will make us think and helps us to mold our-self. However, we should be sticking to our values regardless of the hits if you feel that your stand is right.
Displaying individuality does not mean that you should not respect others. It is just that do not do things to please others or do not do things only because that someone is watching you. You just have to do what you feel is right, without worrying who is watching you.
At the age of 23, you will be confused and will lack direction. There comes the need of devising your own vision to make a crystal clear Manoj.
Saying all the above, I am not a philosopher and sometimes I also end up doing some things to please someone. However, by doing that, I have always felt that it is not elevating us any further. So, wanted to share my opinion from my experience. I am open for suggestions and debates.
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